Friday, May 17, 2013

The Healing Power of Forgiveness

Sometimes we have to look back and evaluate certain aspects in our life. Some call it cleaning our closet or looking at the big picture once in a while. As we grow older, maybe even wiser, memories are sorted in two categories; treasured memories, and regrets.

For many regrets are those skeletons in the closet that, from time to time, come back like a flash back from hell. The same way we tend to remember the way others have wronged us in the past. And let's not forget our worst enemy when it comes to negative feelings, ourselves. Wouldn't be amazing to turn those negative thoughts into powerful tools for growth and healing?
Stop for a moment and step aside from yourself. Having a third party perspective often helps to asess any given situation from a fresh point of view. I don't care of what you think you are guilty off. Of how many lies you have told, or mistakes that you have committed this is the perfect time to learn to forgive yourself. This is probably the most difficult thing you have had to do in the whole of your life.Sure.
  • Don't you want to be able to start over again?
  • Isn't time to stop punishing yourself for messing up?
  • Has it been worth it?
  • Has it made a difference for others that you are still lingering in the past?
  • Aren't you tired of reliving the same thing over and over again?
  • HAs it helped you to become a better person?
  • Are you willing to be forgiven?
  • Are you ready to let go?

First of all, have you learned anything from those mistakes? This is very important for anyone that wants to change their life. The lesson will continue to keep showing up until you acknowledge that its something that need to be addressed.
As human beings we can be so stubborn. Change is something that most of us are not very good at. Specially when it comes with an " I was mistaken" clause. That's OK. No one is perfect. And that is the key to forgive yourself, and others. I am NOT suggesting that is going to be easy. By far. I know that is possible to change the way we see ourselves. Maybe is the starting point to move on.